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Threads : Is this tacky?

From : beenthere (IP: 66.82.9.18)
To : kevins_gal

17 Jul 2002 15:09
Message : 1 of 37 (ID: 1.824.37)

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Kev and fiance

Remember it is you and your fiances wedding, if neither one of you really drinks then there is no need to even have alcoholic beverages.

Also if people feel they can not live without a drink for one evening then they need to go to a AA meeting instead of your wedding.

From : Reb (IP: 136.142.22.224)
To : Guest

15 Jul 2002 10:11
Message : 2 of 37 (ID: 1.824.36)

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*whack!* *smack!* (dead horse) *hiya!* *whack!*

From : Guest (IP: 211.28.96.44)
To : kevins_gal

13 Jul 2002 23:38
Message : 3 of 37 (ID: 1.824.35)

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Hi, Traditionally, people drink & eat to celebrate such a specially occasion. I don't wish to sound rude, but you are inviting the closest of your friends & family to celebrate the most important moment in your life with your partner & asking them to pay for their own alcoholic drinks is a bit rich. Alcohol is associated with any celebration. “Break open the champagne.... let’s celebrate” Can you not cut other costs? For eg, some venues we have looked at are BYO which reduces the costs considerably or maybe you could use friends car instead of a limo (just tie a white ribbon around the car). Or make your own centre pieces, hirer your wedding dress, Alternatively, instead of having an open bar, serve only cask wine & tap beer.
Michelle

From : Guest (IP: 24.215.29.60)
To : kevins_gal

13 Jul 2002 16:40
Message : 4 of 37 (ID: 1.824.34)

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Hello

Although most people do opt to have an open bar for their guests these days, I don't think having a cash bar is "tacky". I would just have my gift reflect that though. If giving money, I would curtail it around the fact that the bride and groom wouldn't be putting out anything much for the guest drink-wise and give less of a gift.

Sincerely,
Agnes S

From : Guest (IP: 63.16.15.232)
To : kevins_gal

25 Jun 2002 07:59
Message : 5 of 37 (ID: 1.824.33)

In Reply to Message ID : 1.824.1

If you think that this thread has been nothing but a cat fight you should've been around here a year or so ago. People were down right nasty at times. People for the most part on this thread seemed to be calm in writing their thoughts on this subject. Perhaps the problem is with the word "tacky"? I always hated that word when I was planning my wedding.... nothing like having your ideas trashed by someone who has no idea! Do what you want!! It's your wedding and your guests.... you know them better than we do!

Donna

From : scn (IP: 199.105.6.181)
To : Guest

24 Jun 2002 17:49
Message : 6 of 37 (ID: 1.824.32)

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To:guest......I think you're the one who is tackey...either that or an alcoholic. Why should the bride and groom pay for everyone to get ripped at their wedding? I am in the catering business...and that's exactly what an open bar pans out to be....a drunkfest.

From : MPC (IP: 62.147.160.49)
To : jmichal76

24 Jun 2002 08:41
Message : 7 of 37 (ID: 1.824.31)

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I agree with the above couple of posts...I think that we can share our views and opinions without insulting each other and putting down one another's families and friends (a ridiculous notion anyway, since no one has even MET the family and friends involved!). I have tried to express my own beliefs (which do differ from those of several posters) in a way that makes it clear that I am only one person, and this is only my point of view, and there are several ways to skin a cat.. and they can all be valid! If I have overstepped that boundary anywhere, it has been unintentional, and I apologize.

I have also started preferring other websites because of the cattiness of a number of posters, and I am glad to hear others are bothered too.

There are some "real" wedding issues to discuss...I say we stick to that and keep outside judgements out of it.

Melissa

From : jmichal76 (IP: 206.98.143.251)
To : Pinkpooh99

21 Jun 2002 16:21
Message : 8 of 37 (ID: 1.824.30)

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Teri
I totally agree with you. This site has changed drastically and it seems to me that everyone comes for a fight. I think that it is ridiculous. I am beginning to not want to come here either. I don't understand. Can we not just all get along?
j.

From : Pinkpooh99 (IP: 172.129.238.170)
To : Reb

21 Jun 2002 15:55
Message : 9 of 37 (ID: 1.824.29)

In Reply to Message ID : 1.824.28

I wouldn't ness. say that the answer to alot of people that yes it is tacky. I've been to alot of message boards for weddings and this topic always pops up and acutally this is the highest response to thinking it was tacky.

qoute:
"If someone asks "Is this tacky?" and in my area, alot of people think it is, but I keep quiet because I don't want to hurt her feelings... well that certainly doesn't make me much help, now does it?"

I meant if they ask you then you can say yes, in my area it is consider tacky for these reason or no it's not considered tacky for these reason.....
Someone people in this thread were going to far by saying you'll be the talk of everyone that night, or talking about family members being "no good". I think that is going to far. It's one thing to help someone but another to stay critizing traditions, families, etc.

I don't mean that you can't voice your opionon but I think alot of problems on here is people being rude about it becuase they are use to one way and not the other. You don't have to keep quite about it but I think there is always a tasteful way to give your opionon and like I said in the earlier post I was directing this towards you or anyone just in general.
We could sit here for months argueing whether a cash bar is tacky or not but like i said in the end I'm still going to feel that it's alright and you are still going to feel it's tacky and there is nothing wrong with either of us.

Please remember Reb I wasn't directing anything towards you directly...it's just this messge board lately has gone off track with little cat fights, making fun of people, and putting other people ideas down. I'm starting to "hate" coming here anymore because no one is interested in talking about weddings, just putting each other down.
Teri

From : Reb (IP: 136.142.20.223)
To : Pinkpooh99

21 Jun 2002 14:53
Message : 10 of 37 (ID: 1.824.28)

In Reply to Message ID : 1.824.27

She asked if it was tacky. Regional or not, the answer is that to alot of people, it is tacky.

If she was positive no one would care, she wouldn't have asked.

I merely answered her question. We have plenty of cash bars and dollar dances around here, but people still think it's cheap. Others don't think much about it at all.

If someone asks "Is this tacky?" and in my area, alot of people think it is, but I keep quiet because I don't want to hurt her feelings... well that certainly doesn't make me much help, now does it?

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