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Threads : In response to "To live together before marriage"
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From : Jen D. ( - 131.204.8.2)
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14 Mar 2000 15:40
Message : 1 of 4 (ID: 6447)
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So you think that "all the aspects of marriage" are in place when you live together? And that the only difference between living together and marriage is a "paper". Well, all I can say is that evidently you haven't a clue as to what marriage is all about. My fiancée and I lived together for eight months prior to our wedding. (I'm going to Hell for so many other things so why not!) I can honestly say that the moment that I walked into that church and saw my husband waiting for me was the single most precious moment of my life. Yes, we had a big wedding. Why bother? Because we loved each other and wanted to join our lives in front of God and our loved ones. And even though we had lived together our marriage completely changed us. What was already a special relationship became something much deeper. A wedding ceremony should not be thought of as an event that grants you permission to have sex and share a house. Because if that were the case their would never be a reason to get married. We could all just have "roommates". A wedding is a joining of two people in a spiritual sense that has nothing to do with where or how you sleep. I realize that we are all entitled to opinions and obviously you were brought up to believe that living together and/or having sex before marriage is wrong. That's fine. I respect that. I was raised that way myself. However, you insult many girls on this board as well as the institution of marriage when you make statements like those above. Although it is not wrong to express how you feel I think it is sad that you equate a wedding with a service that could be performed by Bekins or with a U-Haul and a box of condoms.
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From : Suznyc ( - 204.143.177.186)
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14 Mar 2000 15:51
Message : 2 of 4 (ID: 6453)
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Hey Jen - I'm burnin' with ya! Let's have a party!
You go girl.
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From : Sevie ( - 204.210.231.175)
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14 Mar 2000 21:58
Message : 3 of 4 (ID: 6467)
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U-Haul and a box of condoms? Hey that reminds me of this party my soph. year in college....ummm..nm
YOU GO GIRL! *snap snap*
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From : Robin ( - 216.208.78.34)
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17 Mar 2000 02:43
Message : 4 of 4 (ID: 6740)
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While I agree that marriage isn't just a piece of paper, that is how Mike and myself have tended to see the decision about actually having a wedding ceremony. As in "we're simply making it official". Mike and I have been together for 10 years, lived, loved, fought, cried and dealt with anything that comes our way for 9 1/2 years. Truely, the only difference between us and a "married" couple is the "official" piece of paper which says we are legitimately married. We have decided to "make it official", because it is something we feel we (and the rest of our families) are ready for. We have been commited to each other for quite a while now, but now we are at a point in our lives, that we are ready to openly show just how commited we are to each other. Yeah, I think people get the hint by now, been together for a while, bought a house, have been trying to have a child for two years, pretty much just about everything is ours not his and hers. But we feel it is time to make this relationship "official", if you will. According to some, passed that time (some think we should have done this a long time ago).
Anyway, my long drawn out point is, yes, a marriage is more than just a piece of paper, but, to us, a wedding can be brought down to just a piece of paper (LOL! and then a big party). :-)
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